Love or Friendship?
How many songs, films, and books, both past and present, have tried to illustrate the boundaries between love and friendship between a man and a woman? Is true male-female friendship, free from emotional or sexual confusion, even possible? Even if I have a partner ? Yes to both questions, but it depends on the individual. However, here is some wise advice to avoid this emotional confusion and not fall into the trap!
1) Male-female friendship… Clarify what you feel
To define our feelings, better understand ourselves and better understand others, ask yourself the following questions:
– Do you have a physical desire for your friend?
– Do you sometimes feel like moving beyond just being friends?
– Do you ever find yourself picturing yourself with this person in the future?
– Are you becoming increasingly uncomfortable and jealous of the people he likes and his conquests ?
– Do you ask him questions about his schedule?
– Are you constantly looking for excuses to call, see, and get physically closer to your friend?
– When you have a date, do you find yourself "dressing up" more than before?
– Do you criticize everyone who approaches your friend?
– Have you adopted a more seductive approach?
– Would you lie if a friend asked you if he/she was single?
If you answer yes to these questions, it's not male-female friendship… IT'S LOVE!!!!!
• That's friendship if…
– The idea of being naked in bed together disgusts you
– You're doing speed dating together
– Do you think your friend would be a very good godparent for your future children?
– A new conquest? You give him your objective opinion
– His conquests become, or could become, genuine friends.
– You don't mind at all if he/she doesn't reply to your text within a minute
– You have butterflies in your stomach for someone else…
– …And you ask your friend for seduction advice
– You don't mind if he/she comes to your place and you're dressed casually and your hair isn't combed?
You'd like him/her to finally meet someone with style, so don't hesitate to introduce him/her to people in your circle.
– He/she is late, he/she forgets your party, he/she wears white socks with his/her black sandals in winter? No problem!
2) Situations that may arise…
– You two are on the same wavelength regarding male-female friendship and have no attraction or feelings for each other? Great! No problem, and enjoy this wonderful connection to the fullest!
– Do you feel that one or both of you are starting to get butterflies in your stomach and that maybe "there's love in the air"? Then you'll have to do something about it.
• consider the possible consequences
– It's true that feelings may not be reciprocated. It's unfortunate, but that's life. You can't force someone to love you the same way, and one of you will end up suffering more than the other. This admission could create awkwardness, and the friendship risks breaking down.
– In the fortunate event that feelings are mutual, then a beautiful love story can begin. But be careful, your romantic relationship can also end abruptly, and you will lose not only your lover but also your friend. Don't act impulsively, and for this reason, it's very important to communicate with your friend/potential partner.
• Don't play with fire
If you're certain of your friendship and absolutely don't want to create any misunderstandings, remain true to yourself and honest with yourself. Don't arrange things to put yourselves in potentially "dangerous" situations... no evenings at home for two with too much alcohol, no massages while watching Netflix. If you want to reassure yourself that you're still "hot," practice your seduction techniques on someone else, etc.
• We speak clearly
If you feel your friendship is starting to take a different turn, and if that's what you want, then you need to talk openly! Clearly express your feelings, and it's essential that the other person is also honest with you. Remember that you risk getting hurt if the other person doesn't feel the same way. Similarly, if you sense your friend is developing romantic feelings for you, don't lie or use them, and subtly let them know that you see them more as a brother or sister.
• We find the right distance
If romantic feelings aren't reciprocated, it's important to protect yourself or the other person. Space out phone calls and confidences a little, go out less often, try meeting new people and going to new places…
Often, we simply need a fleeting infatuation, in other words, a "break from being single ." These simple steps allow us to clear the air and quickly return to normal. There's no need to abruptly end this beautiful relationship, unless it causes too much pain. Eventually, time heals all wounds, and the other person's romantic feelings will fade, becoming pure friendship once more.
