In all areas of our lives, when we don’t get what we want, when we want it and how we want it, then we are not happy and this can easily become a source of stress and anxiety. It’s in these moments that you have to let go. However, letting go is not always easy!
For several years, this concept has been growing in popularity. But what does it really mean? Let’s take a closer look at this inner attitude that is still shrouded in mystery.
Letting go: a story of abandonment
This notion comes from India. According to certain sacred texts of the Hindu tradition, letting go would correspond to the fact of abandoning yourself and giving up, of accepting. This concept appeared in France at the end of the 1970s and is now a reference in personal development. Faced with any problem or unpleasant experience, now we are advised to let go. So much so that it becomes difficult to find your way around every event. So what does this notion really mean?
What letting go is not
There are many preconceived notions about this. Some people confuse this concept with sloppiness. However, this has nothing to do with remaining passive. On the contrary, it is choosing to act in a more effective way. Similarly, self-abandonment does not necessarily correspond to the search for a state of well-being or relaxation. While serenity is usually one of the consequences of letting go, there are situations where it can be very scary and even particularly painful to let go.
Let’s get rid of unnecessary control
The people who most need to let go are usually people who are trying to control everything. Indeed, to “give up the game” is to give up control over what cannot be controlled. It is about putting aside your will, your expectations, your desires, your projections and your mind ruminations in order to fully accept the events you are confronted with. It is therefore to get rid of your certainties, your convictions, all those things that clutter us, often unconsciously, to better open ourselves to life and to others.
An experience to be had in the present
Letting go is an experience that we usually have for the first time thanks to our body. In fact, meditation, yoga and even some sports are known to help letting go . By paying attention to your breathing, to your body sensations and to the sounds around you, you gradually get out of those thoughts that loop in your mind. Surrender is a state of relaxation that can only be achieved in the present moment. As soon as we manage to let go of the here and now, a new world opens up to us.
Letting go to solve your problems
If this state is most often reached through inaction, it is only to allow us to act more efficiently. The fact of letting go on a daily basis allows us to see the horizon clear, to see other perspectives, to find new solutions and not to waste our energy on the same negative ideas. It is to fully accept our limits in order to regain some power over the world around us.
In conclusion, when things don’t go right, instead of panicking, take a breath and let it go!
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